This week’s podcast was recorded with the pleasurable company of Kon-ick Macfarlane Hunt. Subject matter during this recording was Suicide prevention month. We also talked about Kon-icks own struggles with mental health and how life events had left him struggling. Our listener question was: what is the difference between Counselling and coaching.
For me there is one main difference between counselling and coaching, the difference being, counselling particularly Psychotherapeutic counselling, will go deeper than coaching does. Both counselling and coaching work in a way that encourages the client to answer their own questions and queries. Clients in both fields can often want the therapist to answer direct questions, I have experienced this many times, people will ask me direct” what shall I do “ If I’m being honest sometimes it is hard not to give a straight answer but it really isn’t in the client’s best interest. Why not...? Because if we are told something, or told to do something, it has less power than if we find the answer in our own heads. This is so true, I have therapy and I have supervision for the work I do, in both cases I have been in situations where I have just wanted my therapist or my supervisor to tell me what to do. If someone tells us the answer or tells us what to do, we feel less attached to it, whereas, if we are encouraged to find the answer for ourselves, as I said before, it has more power and more likely to stick, so therefore more likely to make a difference to our issue or dilemma. The other difference between counselling and coaching is that counselling will go deeper than Coaching. Now this can depend on the therapists training, for me, if I were purely using my coaching qualification, I would be more likely to go deeper, but only because I have the skills to go deeper and know I can hold and manage whatever I might find. Some peopledon’t want to go so deep, some people don’t want to look into their past, some don’t seethe point and I really value and respect this. As a trained psychotherapist I’m tempted towonder what the client might be avoiding or not wanting to face, but I do respect their wishes not to go there.
Kon-ick also talked about life events that’s had led him to want to take his own life on twooccasions. He talks about this openly and honestly; our hope is that if someone hears this podcast then it may help them to see there is another way.
If there is one message, I would value people hearing it’s this: although things may feel darkand there is no way out, there is always a way. Reach out to someone, there will be that oneperson how is wanting to hear you, be there for you. It doesn’t need to be a friend it couldbe a helpline; I have listed all current helplines for you to access. These are completely confidential and a safe way of having a talk with someone. There is even an option to text ifyou really don’t want to speak with someone, what ever you do, please reach out.
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Peace and love